As wedding dance experts, we meet a lot of people preparing for their first dance. And that means that we’ve heard a wide variety of perspectives about what it takes to be a good dancer, how the learning process works, and the general significance of a first dance. Most of these beliefs are based on people’s own experience or understanding, but unfortunately many of these beliefs are the complete opposite of the truth as we experts know it. As experienced dancers, instructors and wedding specialists, we bring you 5 of the most common misconceptions about the first dance...
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After the Buddha had spent years walking from village to village answering questions about the meaning of life and how to reach a state of enlightenment, he was finally asked a question that caused even this most enlightened wise man to sit and contemplated.
A young man in fine clothing asked to meet with him in private, insisting that he needed the full attention of the Buddha.
You may have tons of great ideas for choosing your first dance song. Or maybe you have no idea how to begin! This video will offer some insight an advice on how to choose a wedding song that's right for you.
As dance instructors, it goes without saying that dancing brings us joy. We all know that if we’re having a hard day, we can just get up and dance, and even if nothing is resolved, we at least feel better about it! And we have the pleasure of sharing our understanding of the benefits of dance with our many wedding dancers preparing for their first dance! But, do we just enjoy dancing because it’s a lighthearted, fun activity or does dance actually have the power to make us happier, healthier individuals?
Everyone can learn to dance for their wedding. That goes without question. We’re all born to move, learn and explore and learning your first dance is just an extension of this natural impulse to move and connect.
Every couple who comes to Ballroom Dance Chicago for first dance lessons has been successful in learning how to dance with each other (of course to varying degrees of success). It doesn’t matter what your goals are or the amount of energy and time you dedicate to learning to dance, you will walk out of the dance studio having a clearer idea of how to move together.
When it comes to your first dance, you determine your success by how much you’re willing to commit to the learning process (i.e., number/frequency of lessons, hours of practice, etc). Just like all the other details in your wedding to which you’ve dedicated time and money, you decide how your first dance goes: do the bare minimum or kill it; have a fun, elegant, playful (whatever adjective works for you) first dance or hold each other and sway like you’re at your high school prom. Our job as dance instructors at Ballroom Dance Chicago is to get you looking as good as possible in the amount of time you give us to instruct you.
Quite Possibly! But it’s not your only option. First off, we understand why a lot of people would want choreography for their first wedding dance. It would certainly be comforting to get up in front of all of your guests on your wedding day and know you can rely on a specific pattern of steps when you begin your first dance. If you carefully rehearse every detail of your first wedding dance, that could go a long way in helping you feel confident that you'll hit all the great moments you want to highlight in your wedding song.
Honestly, you can plan your first dance at any point in the reception. Traditionally, you’d dance right after dinner to open up the dance floor for your dance party, but we all know that tradition isn’t always the way to go. There are definite pros and cons to all of your options, but it’s most important to consider how you want your first dance to affect the rest of the evening. Here are a few options to consider.
Finding the perfect first dance song can be a bit overwhelming at first, but when you have the right goals in mind, it’s much easier/ to narrow them down! Here are a few things to consider while on the hunt for the perfect song...
It’s always a dance teacher’s pleasure to work with a couple who is interested in learning to dance together and who already move naturally together and Paul and Liz are one of those couples.
When Ken and Sam stepped into the studio for their first lesson, Samantha’s polished curls and Ken’s smiling face caught our attention. With no particular song or dance in mind, they wanted to have fun exploring a few different dance styles. They agreed their first dance should be both fun and traditional, and feeling confident performing was a top priority, particularly in Sam’s tall hot pink heels!
Whether you have a special song or not, it’s important to keep in mind that the first dance isn’t necessarily danced to your special song. The first dance is really about the newlyweds’ demonstrating their ability to move together as one – a metaphor for their new lives together. If “your song” isn’t danceable or in the style you want, you should choose a different song. Here are a few important things to consider when deciding on a song for your first dance.